A Way of Escape
Have you ever felt like you are in a dark tunnel, and suddenly you see the bright headlight of a train coming right at you, with no way of escape? Or maybe you are addicted to something you just can’t let go, the pull is like a strong magnet and there seems to be no way of escape. Or maybe your bills are piling up faster than you can pay them, they seem to be multiplying, with no way of escape. We have all been there, and know it is not uncommon to run up against trials and tribulations that overwhelm and sometimes demoralize us, and we seem to have no way to escape. Fortunately, God's Word has an assurance for us.
Although my very impactful trial included a devastatingly difficult financial catastrophe, your own path to victory is the same as mine, regardless of the issue (relational, anger, integrity, substance abuse, or whatever). First Corinthians 10:13 (NIV) confirms the promise that God will provide for us a way of escape so that we can bear up under our trials. “No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so you can endure it.” (NIV)
Our “way of escape” from ANY dilemma is assured through our born-again relationship with Christ, faith in His guidance, anchoring our trust in specific scriptures from the Word of God and, implementing the guidance of the Holy Spirit.
To receive the stress relieving resolution to your overwhelming dilemma, your own “Way of Escape Success Steps” could be:
- Internalize your faith in First Corinthians 10:13-NIV.
- Determine the specific root cause of your dilemma.
- Discover and profess the specific scriptures on which to anchor your dilemma’s ultimate victory.
Romans 10:17 tells us that “faith comes by hearing, and hearing by the word of God”
- Implement God’s success formula found in Joshua 1:8-NIV.
This Book of the Law shall not depart from your mouth, but you shall meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do according to all that is written in it. For then you will make your way prosperous, and then you will have good success. I like to think about it like this My Success formula is: I+A=R, Information plus Application equals Results.
- Specifically list what your new victorious life will contain.
- Move forward in confidence. Do the next right thing and draw closer to Jesus!
By cooperating with this guidance and implementing our Way of Escape Success Steps our faithful God will indeed bring to us His way of escape. Congratulations, you now have a way to change your perspective from being problem focused to being solution-oriented!
Keep pressing on, because you are trusting in a faithful God!
Greg Plants, was raised in Vienna, WV and after spending a short while at Marshall University he promptly joined the Navy. Of Greg's 51 years in aviation 20 years were spent as a Navy air traffic controller. The remaining 31 years were spent training general aviation pilots and training pilots for Japan Airlines in Napa CA and most recently for Southwest Airlines right here in Dallas. The most unique aviation job Greg had was to fly blimps: the Fuji Film blimp, the Bud One airship, Airship Shamu and the Snoopy 1 blimp travelling across America filming major sporting events like Super Bowl, World Series, U.S. Open tennis tournament in New York, Indianapolis 500, Daytona 500, and many PGA and LPGA events. Greg and his wife Rita moved to Texas in 2001 and live in the Del Webb Frisco Lakes retirement community in Frisco TX. Being retired, Greg spends most of his day sitting on the front porch writing whatever comes to mind, getting under Rita’s feet while doing honeydos’ for her, and sometimes teaching financial classes for the Frisco Lakes Life-Long Learning group, that he helped establish. Greg's passion for teaching about the faithfulness of God and financial empowerment is the result of the story he is about to tell you.
What are you holding on to?
By Alita Reynolds
A woman was walking down the sidewalk.
She was walking along, talking about her next appointment, carrying all her bags, with her phone in one hand, and her coffee in the other. Somehow, this crack in the sidewalk caused her to stumble and bumble, and finally, she fell to the ground!
But guess what? She did NOT spill that coffee!!!
Like this woman, the question I pose to you is this, “What are you holding onto so very carefully that you never mess this up?”
It doesn’t matter what comes your way, THIS, whatever it is that you hold in your hand, THIS will never spill or break.
Is it your looks? Never walking out of the house without your makeup done perfectly and the right clothes on,
Is it your workout schedule never missing one? Ever? To keep the scale at the right number?
Is it cooking everyone’s favorite meals every evening?
Is it planning and executing the perfect parties?
Is it keeping your home perfectly clean 100% of the time?
Is it keeping the kids in the right activities with the right gear? Always?
Or maybe it is rising up in your career at all costs, always being perfectly prepared for every meeting.
What are you holding onto like this woman who could take a huge fall, yet come up afterward and say, “Well at least I didn’t spill my coffee!”
My question is, “Are we holding onto the right thing?
What is it for you that you have to hold onto and never let it spill or fall or crash?
How do we let go of that tendency toward perfection, no matter what, and hold onto what actually matters?
Allow me to remind you, God has grace for you. Do you have grace for yourself?
I hear women claiming, “I’m a perfectionist” like it is a badge of honor or as a positive attribute. It so hurts my heart to know women carry this around, pride themselves on attempting to do all things perfectly. The thought of attempting to live this way feels so heavy.
Like a ton of bricks laying across the shoulders of a woman who is attempting to get it all right. And God wants to take that weight off of anyone who attempts perfection because it is IMPOSSIBLE to accomplish!
It is impossible to keep everything in balance at all times, likewise, it is impossible to do all things perfectly at all times.
We have to find the rhythm of life. We have to live in rhythm.
So that WHEN, not if, something falls, we are still on solid ground.
Our day or week or month is not ruined when something in our lives is not executed just exactly right.
While I have been accused of perfectionism and had the tendency to lean that way, I have learned what works best for me is the approach of doing things with excellence.
My motto is this.
Anything worth doing is worth doing well, especially for the Lord.
It is the intent and motive behind it.
Doing it with excellence instead of perfection.
Alita Reynolds is the President of Women of Faith, ICCI Master Life Coach Trainer, Writer, and sought-after Speaker. She and her husband, GJ, are the Visionaries of Women of Faith, a global ministry equipping women to live victoriously with Jesus. Alita’s life purpose is as simple as her upbringing was on a Nebraska farm. She passionately inspires others to find Jesus by bringing out the beautiful story God has written for their lives. Alita creates opportunities to encourage everyone to find their God-given purpose, live a life of excellence, elevate all areas of their lives to bring others to Jesus, and lock arms together to Be the Light! She is real and authentic, with a deep desire to strengthen movements radically changing the world. This all starts at home in Lincoln, Nebraska, with her husband and three children, Logan, Rees and Lexi. For more, see womenoffaith.com
The Profile Of A Spiritual Athlete
Growing up, we had a dog named Pebbles. She was a miniature Yorkie and five pounds of spastic yippiness. Even into her old age, the second you let her out of her crate, she would sprint circles around the living room, rolling on her back and snorting in between laps.
There are days when Pebbles perfectly portrays my internal state – frantic and anxious. I’m busy yet aimless. Desperate to be purposeful and in control, I find myself chasing the wind of my shifting desires. Mentally I’m circling. I jump compulsively to reach elusive standards I’ve set for myself based on comparison and Instagram.
For months, I’ve been praying that God would sharpen my focus, strengthen my spiritual muscles. I prayed: Lord, let me be obedient. Let me run quickly when I hear Your voice. Like an elite hunting dog, train me to be a spiritual athlete—fast and strong.
The image of an attentive, powerful animal seemed noble to me. At my core I desire to make a difference for God. I long for my days to be purposeful, marked by meaningful, kind words and steady steps of obedience. I want to cultivate courage, to be known for my grit. I aspire to have unwavering endurance that yields fruit and faithfulness.
Yet, mixed up with those virtuous ambitions is a primal desire to be self-sufficient and in control. I aim to be strong and capable simply because it is uncomfortable to feel weak.
But over the past few months, the reality of my lack of control and utter vulnerability as a human, has never been in clearer focus. I’ve realized that God never asked me to be capable or strong. He asked me to come to Him and abide.
The Gospels echo with Jesus’ heartfelt yet simple message, “come to me.” To tax collectors perched in trees, to women hiding out at wells, and to little children giggling loudly while He taught, he said, “come near.” To the weary, to the burdened, to the broken, He holds His arms open wide, asking little in return. (Matthew 11:28; 19:14.)
The most consistent metaphor for Christ-followers in Scripture is not a grand German Shepherd or even a powerful stallion, but a sheep. Not a muscular, tactical animal but one that is fluffy, clumsy, and needy. God doesn’t need us, like a hunter needs a Retriever. He loves us.
Though He undoubtedly has plans and a purpose for our lives and destinations for our giftings (Jeremiah 39:11, Eph. 2:10), I’m coming to terms with the fact that there may never be a day when God unfolds the map and shows me where to run. For that would mean He is sending me out ahead of Him, alone.
God is not a faceless GPS, He is the Good Shepherd. He takes the thirsty, the fearful, the aimless and gently, patiently leads us along paths of righteousness through dark valleys to rest in green pastures and by quiet waters. He doesn’t bark orders or point to far away destinations, expecting us to travel there alone. Instead, He “gathers the lambs in His arms and carries them” (Isaiah 40:11). Though our pride desires capability and control, our souls were created for dependence.
Notably the action verbs in Psalm 23 are all attributed to the Shepherd, rather than the sheep. She is simply the grateful recipient, the trusting follower. Because in the end, while the destination is glorious, all the glory goes to Him—not her intelligence in discerning the map or strength to traverse the valleys. She arrives at the destination because of His daily, loving guidance. No turn or step is wasted. Not even this season of uncertainty.
The profile of a spiritual athlete still involves focus, strength, and grit (1 Timothy 1:7). But that power is fueled by an understanding of our own great need, rather than a clinging to the façade of our capability. Following the Good Shepherd through the valleys develops true perseverance, courage, and endurance. Waiting patiently with Him by quiet waters—even when the rest of the world seems to be passing us by—develops character. Stepping and re-stepping after a stumble, increases agility. Listening for His voice in the fog, cultivates faithfulness (John 10:27).
Lately, my new prayer is simply this: Lord, I trust you with today. Let me follow you faithfully.
And I can feel my spiritual muscles strengthening.
BIO: Morgan Eseke, is a strategic marketer, writer, and speaker, is passionate about discipling the next generation and helping all ages of women experience a deep, meaningful relationship with Jesus Christ. Morgan is currently pursuing her Masters in Christian Leadership at Dallas Theological Seminary, and lives in Dallas with her husband David and their two young daughters. When she is not studying, strategizing, or speaking, Morgan spends her days playing pretend and playdoh or riding the Peloton bike (during nap time, of course.)
Watch Out for the Big D
By Julie B. Cosgrove
“In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry…“ Ephesians 4:26 Some believe a Christian should never get angry. But in Ephesians, Paul makes a distinction. He says to not let your anger lead you into sin.
Anger is an emotion. Even Jesus experienced anger (see John 2:14-15). He cursed a barren fig tree and it withered. He called the Pharisees a brood of vipers. But He didn’t chew on his anger, digest it, and let it get inside of Him.
We are all human, and we get angry. It is what we allow to happen next that makes all the difference.
It is difficult to control emotions when they bubble up but we can choose how to respond once they surface. Righteous anger can lead to positive results if guided by the Holy Spirit’s fruit of love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control (Galatians 5:22-23). If your anger leads to malice, envy, pre-judgment, gossip, or not treating the other person in love (even if it is tough love) then watch out! You may be giving the devil an entrance.
D stands for “Devil”, and when we put a “d” in front of anger it spells DANGER!
Anger that has been stirred by the devil rarely makes a good recipe to swallow. It is flavored with self and seasoned with negativity. Add a dash of hurt and you are in a stew! Anger can then become more than a gut reaction. If we brood, it can lead to digestive issues, cardiac problems, and an embittered attitude.
Anger by itself is an emotion like any other. But if we act on it without praying about it first, then beware. We have entered into danger. The old adage of counting slowly to ten before reacting has merit.
When anger bubbles up, we need to be careful of what we think or say. Stop. Watch out for the “D’. Give it to the Lord. Then we won’t have to eat our words!
Freelance writer, award-winning traditionally published author and speaker Julie B Cosgrove leads retreats, workshops, and Bible studies. She writes regularly for several Christian websites and publications. Julie has won "One of the 50 Writers You should be Reading" in 2015 & 2016 by the nationally syndicated radio The Author Show and is a Grace Award finalist, INSPY semifinalist, and winner of the Best Religious Fiction 2016 winner and Best Cozy Mystery 2017 by the Texas Association of Authors. But her passion is story-telling and she loves to read mysteries and suspense as well as write them. She currently has three mystery series: The Bunco Biddies Mysteries, The Relatively Seeking Mysteries, and the Wordplay Mysteries. Visit her website at www.juliebcosgrove.com
Do you see the Butterflies?
She was born on Christmas day and named Faith by her mom and dad. The saying, “Wait until they reach the terrible twos,” meant something totally different for Susan and Connell, Faith’s parents, who also had toddlers, Victoria and David. Terrible because it would start a journey that no parent ever wants to take.
Faith had an episode of vomiting and a seizure. A neurologist’s visit suggested epilepsy, but her MRI scan looked clear. However, another seizure, ER visit, and scan three months later showed a fast-growing cancerous brain tumor bigger than a baseball.
Connell and Susan are Christians, and this would be a great test of their marriage and faith, and proof that God was there for them. “Please God, save her” was one of many prayers. Days later came her first surgery, followed by weekly blood draws, monthly chemotherapy, radiation, unexpected hospital stays during birthdays and holidays, and a new gamma ray procedure. The TV show, Dateline, heard about this trial and decided to follow her progress. However, when the good results everyone wanted didn’t happen, neither did the show.
They switched to a Christian oncologist surgeon. The doctor performed a second procedure that would only make her more comfortable, and hopefully, extend her life.
“Lord, I see you heal other kids. Why not my little girl?” Connell prayed. Miracles do happen, but many times not the ones we specifically want. Faith’s life touched many people.
Thanksgiving morning, Faith, now 3 years old, woke up and said, “Jesus came to me and said I need a piece of paper and pen to write my testament for Mommy.” At this point, the doctors said to just take her home and love on her. No more chemo and few medicines.
She had multiple birthday parties because they did not think she would live to reach the next one. When Faith played, she would say, “Daddy, the butterflies are here! They are telling me they will be taking me to see Jesus! I don’t want to go.” Susan asked her, “What do the butterflies look like?” Faith said, “They are all the colors, and you and daddy each have a big one. David and Victoria have small ones.”
Saul became Paul, and Faith became Marcy. Faith told her parents Jesus changed her name to Marcy. At other times, Connell would take her to the backyard, and she would ask, “Do you see the butterflies?”
Faith lost her sight the day after her birthday (Christmas) and began to crawl. She told her dad, “I can still see the angels.” Then it was time for hospice. Susan said to me, “It’s not that I had faith in her living. I did not know if she would. I had faith in Who is over her.” Connell felt like God never left them. At four years old, on February 5th, 2003, Connell told me, “Faith went home to be raised by Jesus.”
As humans, we do not understand that God’s thoughts are not like our thoughts. Connell and Susan cling to the verse in Isaiah 57:1 (NIV). “The righteous perish, and no one takes it to heart; the devout are taken away, and no one understands that the righteous are taken away to be spared from evil.”
My wife and I consider Connell and Susan dear friends. I met them a month after losing little Faith. Twenty years later, they mention Faith frequently. Sometimes I still see the hurt, but mostly, I see the peace that one day they will be with her again.
Oh, and one last comment. Susan was looking at cards about the meaning of Christian names. She came across one for Marcy, the name given to Faith by Jesus. It means “Heroine of Faith.”
Fight the good fight of faith, lay hold on eternal life, to which you were also called and have confessed the good confession in the presence of many witnesses.
1 Timothy 6:12 (NKJV)
By Mark Cragle
Mark is a blogger and retired Field Sale Engineer. He earned his Mechanical Engineering degree at RIT and worked in that capacity for many years living in upstate New York. Mark is married to his wife Teri and they feel blessed to travel together. They have 2 sons, and daughters-in-law, and 2 adorable grandsons. Mark likes volunteering with special needs kids at his church and advocates for people suffering from brain diseases and injuries.
I’ve never been one to be all that adventurous when it comes to expanding my palette. I know what I like and I stick to it. However, I’ve always admired others who will try anything, especially when traveling. Realizing that the culinary experience is as much a part of taking in the culture as any other , they are eager to try anything the locals might have on their own plates. As for me, if it has tentacles, an uncooked gelatinous consistency, or looks back at me from the plate, I’m likely to say, “You first!” when the platter is passed around the table.
There are some among us who are more likely to say, “Me first!” when it comes to adventuring. It is a “Me, first” that characterizes a burning desire to learn how to solve a specific problem, find out what is just over the horizon, or learn about living creatures that survive in extreme environments.
While these people tend to be leaders in their fields, I believe that a more apt term for them would be “pioneers.” They are driven to discovery by their own curiosity, and passionate perseverance to complete their quests. They are likely to want to be personally involved with the venture, and have a higher tolerance for risk than the rest of us. Finally, they are principled, believing if given enough time and resources they will reach their objectives.
An example of a pioneer in his field is Dr. Horace Wells, a dentist in the mid-nineteenth century. Dr. Wells was a compassionate man who took his Christian faith seriously. He also took dentistry seriously, and was well-known even at a young age. He invented a slogan to help people remember to clean their teeth, “The clean tooth does not decay!” He knew that the healthier people were, the less likely they were to need his services for tooth extraction. Extractions traumatized both Dr. Wells and his patients as anesthesia had yet to be discovered. The pain Dr. Wells had to inflict on his patients caused him to quit the work he loved several times before taking it up again.
One evening a traveling medical show arrived in Dr. Wells’ hometown of Hartford, CT. Part medical lecturer/part showman, Gardner Quincy Colton appeared on stage carrying an odd bag with a hose. Colton explained that the bag contained a gas that could cause people to hallucinate. A young man volunteered, and after inhaling from the hose, began to act under the influence to the delight of the audience. He gashed his leg during the exhibition, and didn’t seem to notice until the effects of the wore off and he returned to his seat. Dr. Wells took note of the whole chain of events, and began to wonder, could the consequence of pain be separated from dental surgery?
The very next day, Dr. Wells engaged Colton and an associate, Dr. John Riggs to extract one of his own nagging wisdom teeth. Unsure of how much gas was needed to effectively spare Wells from the pain, Colton and Riggs objected. However, Wells insisted. In essence, he was saying, “Me first.” He was willing to take the risk to solve his own dental dilemma, satiate his own curiosity and pave the way for others who needed relief from the screaming pain that tooth extraction inflicted on patients.
When we turn to the book of Hebrews in the New Testament of the Bible, we are told by the writer to “[fix] our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.” The word for “pioneer” in the original Greek language means “source,” “princely one,” or “founder.” As we think about Jesus and his pioneering way, we see that He indeed is the source of our faith, as it is only by his death, burial, and resurrection that makes the way for us to have eternal life. In the book of Colossians 1:18, Christ is called, “the head of the body, the church; he is the beginning and the firstborn from among the dead, so that in everything he might have the supremacy.” Since we are created in God’s image, it makes sense that when we pursue the quest that the Lord has put upon our hearts that we are, in essence, reflecting the pioneering spirit of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ!
So, what are we waiting for? Now is the time to activate the gifts the Lord has given us by applying them to problems we see in our churches, communities and our country. Make the burning call of your heart “Me first!”
Jennifer Epperson serves as Executive Director of Kinship Radio. As her own life has been deeply impacted by the life-changing impact of Christian radio, Jennifer has been grateful to have spent over three decades in the industry.
Previously, she was Moody Radio’s Director of Research and Learning and has been station manager of WRMB-89.3 FM (Moody Radio) and WFIF-1500 AM (Blount Communications). Jennifer has worked and taught in international contexts and spent five years as the Executive Producer of TWR’s Women of Hope radio program. Jennifer holds a doctorate in organizational leadership and has taught leadership and radio on the university level. She is the chairwoman of the National Religious Broadcasters Radio Committee and is a member of the NRB’s board of directors. In October, she released her first book, The Pioneer’s Way: Leading a Trailblazing Life that Builds Meaning for Your Family, Your Community, and You in October 2020.
Recognizing Cycles of God's Favor
Have you ever found yourself in a seemingly impossible situation, holding fast to faith in almighty God, but at the same time wondering "How can God possibly get me through this?" If you have, you are not alone! Testimonies abound of people who have overcome impossible odds to break through to the favor that God has planned for them. Before the breakthrough, that question looms larger than life.
We can look all throughout scripture for examples of God's amazing last-minute saving grace. Moses and the Israelites fled Egypt but found themselves stuck at the border of the Red Sea with Pharaoh's armies in hot pursuit. David fled from the relentless murderous spirit of King Saul, but could never lift his hand against Saul, God's anointed. Elijah boldly triumphed over the prophets of Baal under King Ahab and Queen Jezebel's wicked reign, but fled into the wilderness fearing for his life, exhausted and overwhelmed. Esther found favor to become the queen of Persia, but her kindred Jewish people were set to be annihilated unless she risked her own life to appeal to the king. All of these eventually triumphed with God's favor!
In our own lives, the worldwide pandemic this past year has brought fear, confusion, division, uncertainty, and loss. Many people are finding themselves in situations that appear to be hopeless. Work that once provided a steady income has disappeared. Many have lost loved ones or suffering with health complications. Others are weighed down by a mounting pile of bills and debt. The bonds with friends and family have been tested by the stresses of social and political turbulence.
It is important during times such as these to know that God's grace has not left us. We have reason to rejoice even in the middle of trials and tribulations. God's love for each one of us is deeper than we can fathom! When we cry out to our Heavenly Father, he hears us. "The Lord is near to all who call upon Him, to all who call upon Him in truth. He will fulfill the desire of those who fear Him; He also will hear their cry and save them." (Psalm 145:18-19) With reverence toward God, paying attention to His whisperings in our circumstances, and diligently following His leadings, we can celebrate with joy over the care of His hand on us.
Not every season appears to be a season of God's favor. God's favor comes in cycles as He prunes, purifies and prepares our hearts for the next season ahead. Recently, God reminded me how He pulled me out of small beginnings and multiplied my blessings five-fold in just the span of months. After enduring the humility of the current season, imagine my rejoicing as He imparted to me that a time of increase is coming again soon. God's favor is surely upon us, even as circumstances appear to say otherwise. In due time, God reveals the open door of favor He has destined for us all along.
Zoltán Szentkirályi is a researcher of spiritual and physical health. A statistician by training, he earned his statistics degree from the Ohio State University and is currently a professor teaching statistical software at Southern Methodist University. Relatively new to the Christian faith, he has a passion to share testimonies of miracles and empirical evidence of the power of the God in action. His ministry focus is on overcoming trauma and affirming the depth of God's love for every individual.
Cast all your cares on him because he cares for you.
—1 Peter 5:7
Have you ever received a text from your teenager/young adult saying, “Anxiety really bad this morning. Going to class late”? How do we process these words when our child is away from home? The feelings associated with not being able to help are far from fun. I have wanted to pack my bag, jump in the car or plane, and go make everything better. How about you? It’s hard, isn’t it? I’ve learned to slow down in the moment, get quiet, remember the promises God has given me about my child, and ask for prayer support.
When my child sent that uneasy feeling kind of text, I encouraged them to do their best to get quiet, turn on some worship music, pray, and allow God to meet them where they were at today.
By grace, I’ve been able to choose trust in God’s ability to meet my child’s need in every way. I intentionally thank him throughout the day for making himself known to my children.
I must give my children the freedom to choose Jesus and press into him. I can provide encouragement and tools, but I cannot save them or become their savior
I read an article recently on how anxiety, fear, and stress impact the brain. The amygdala is an almond-shaped section of the brain that is responsible for a chemical response when negative feelings occur. A simple way to combat these uncomfortable feelings is to breathe deep, practice meditation, and gratitude. Meditation will help calm and shrink the amygdala. Deep breathing will help get more oxygen to the brain and gratitude will shift thoughts away from the amygdala and move us toward the prefrontal cortex. The PFC is where we can think clearly, be creative and make good judgments about our circumstances. The amygdala lives in the back of the brain and is activated during fight, flight, freeze, or appease moments. Slowing down and taking time to develop a consistent habit of deep breathing and meditation will improve mental health. The benefits of adopting these practices will heighten your emotional intelligence and lessen your emotional response. In other words, it instills a steadiness or calm into your reply or being. Secondly, you gain more mental clarity. Third, you become more self-aware and your empathy increases. Lastly, your attention span grows giving you the ability to stay attuned and present.
There are many examples of meditation in the Bible. Genesis 24:63 says, “And Isaac went out to meditate in the field toward evening.” The main reason God directs us toward meditating is to achieve perfect peace. “You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast, because they trust in you” (Isaiah 26:3).
How do we become steadfast in our minds? We focus. We get quiet. We meditate. God knows these thoughts will keep our minds in a good and life-giving place. We are to think on what is pure, lovely, and of good report.
Scripture points us toward obtaining peace in this world. Peace from anxiety and stress. God came to give us his peace. It is his gift to us. Don’t yield to fear or be troubled in your hearts; instead, be courageous!”
Patti Reed is wife to Frank and mom to Ryan and Hope. She homeschooled her children for 7 years with a commitment to impact the spiritual, emotional and intellectual health and growth of her children. She is an Entrepreneur and owned a Christian advertising business for 18 years here in DFW. Her most recent venture as a new author and certified coach in conversational intelligence®? began over three years ago when she answered God’s call to write a devotional for parents of teens/young adults coming this Spring.
Wash Day Grief
Have you ever noticed the settings on your washing machine as they relate to grief? Consider these common washing machine settings:
NORMAL: Normal responses following a loss may include mood changes, changes in eating and sleeping patterns, feelings of anger, abandonment, despair, loss of concentration, loss of energy, and the loss of motivation. These responses can vary based upon previous loss experiences, our relationships, and even our personality.
SMALL LOAD: Each person’s grief is a major life event. However, there may be some days the grief pain is not as intense. These days offer the time to catch your breath. Regardless of the relationship…regardless of the circumstances surrounding the loss…it is a major loss.
LARGE LOAD: Grief can bring on very intense feelings. These feelings can be overwhelming, even to someone with a history of always being under control. We can be paralyzed emotionally because of the shock a loss brings.
SPIN CYCLE: Several events can throw a griever into a “spin cycle”. Holidays, birthdays, anniversaries, photos, music, food, and even fragrances can begin the “spin cycle” of emotions. These are normal twists and turns along the journey of grief.
RINSE CYCLE: The rinse cycle is a time of refreshing. Tears provide a natural rinsing, a cleansing of the soul. Grief encompasses all of the confusing and painful emotions felt after a loss. Mourning is the outward expression of these feelings...whether through tears, words, or actions.
COOL DOWN: No one can take grief away. Expressing grief to a safe person, or becoming part of a grief support group, can provide a “cool down” time. These steps can help soften the pain of grief, but the awareness of the loss will remain.
Give yourself permission to be a “NORMAL” griever. Some days will bring a “SMALL LOAD” of grief…other days will consist of a “LARGE LOAD”. The “SPIN CYCLE” may be intense at times…while the “RINSE CYCLE” of tears can cleanse the soul as we mourn the loss. Peace and acceptance can offer a “COOL DOWN” phase…a time of rest.
Jesus did NOT say “Blessed are those who GRIEVE”! But, He DID say “Blessed are those who MOURN, for they shall be comforted.” Matthew 5:4. Grief is the confusing tangle of emotions and feelings that are within following a loss. These may feel like loneliness, sadness, emptiness, anger, guilt and regrets. No one can see our grief, it is personal and private.
But, when we talk about these feelings the grief becomes mourning. A good definition of mourning is “grief gone public”. Mourning may be talking about the feelings, or even actions to honor the life of a loved one who died. Every one grieves, but not everyone mourns in a healthy manner.
Find a safe person who will let you talk about your feelings. As you talk about your grief you are mourning the loss…according to Jesus, that is when you find comfort.
Psalms 147:3 “He heals the brokenhearted, He binds up their heart”.
Bob Willis has served as a Southern Baptist minister and hospice Bereavement Coordinator. He is a frequent speaker on grief, loss, and caregiver issues. His book “A Guide For Grievers” was released in June 2017, providing information on grief and supporting those who have experienced a loss. Bob has been a sculptor for over 25 years. In May of 2018, he became the Sculptor at The Great Passion Play, Eureka Springs, Arkansas.
Set your house in order because Christ could come today . . .
And some tasks may be unfinished if you are called away.
An angel may have told you at the early morning light . . .
“Your Lord will come this evening and you’ll be home with Him tonight.”
Our hearts may become clouded as we think of work undone . . .
Those seeds that weren’t scattered and the crowns that we might have won.
There were souls we meant to speak to and Bible verses we meant to share . . .
And there were a lot of wasted moments we could have spent in prayer.
Now there are a few short moments to set undone things right . . .
And feverishly we’d labor until we see the warning light.
We all have a slothful soul and a careless heart and some spiritual eyes that seem to have no sight . . .
We need to work, and not reap in vain regrets, because my Lord Jesus may come tonight.
“Therefore you also must be ready, for the Son of Man is coming at an hour you do not expect.” (Matthew 24:44)
Tom Kesting was born and raised in Bluefield, West Virginia, and attended West Virginia University on a football scholarship. He worked in the marketplace doing sales and marketing for 30 years and worked at In Touch Ministries for 26 years. Tom became a Christian when he was 41 years old. Three days a week he broadcasts a 15-minute inspiration program on Facebook and sends out daily encouraging emails to friends and to those interested in positive encouragement and inspiration. Tom lives in Lilburn, Georgia, and has been married for 20 years.
“Mind the gap” is a phrase used in the United Kingdom (UK) to warn subway passengers that there is a gap between the train floor and the station platform. People could stumble, fall, or get hurt if they don't recognize this discrepancy and take appropriate action.
This message can be applied in many ways besides the UK subway. For example, I know a wonderful woman who takes care of her husband who had a severe stroke. Elaine, who is not tall by any standard, daily cares for her husband Allan, who is tall. There is gap not only in their height, but also in the way they must live pre- and post- stroke. She minds the gap by honoring her husband and displaying great love for him. One of many ways I see this is when she helps him out of their car. When I am around, I take his wheelchair out of the back of the car for her. I am younger and stronger, but it is a chore for me. Yet Elaine must do this most times on her own. Jesus came to serve and if the son of God does so we are expected to do so as well. Elaine is practicing Galatians 5:13, to serve one another in love.
Another example is the gap we have seen in 2020 and the many changes in the lives of most people all over the world. January 1st is a new year and many people put their trust in New Year’s Eve striking midnight to improve their situations. New Years’ resolutions have been proven to not last long. In fact, the Bible says this in Ecclesiastes 5:5 “It is better not to vow than to make a vow and not fulfill it.”
Having a great 2021 would be a blessing. However, as Christians, we need to mind the gap between our present circumstances and eternity. Let’s be Kingdom-minded and focus on loving and helping others rather than concentrating on our own problems. The eternal glory that is in store for us (if you are in Christ Jesus) far surpasses our present troubles. That includes the year 2020.
I believe Martin Luther had New Year’s right. “Glory to God in highest heaven, who unto man His Son hath given; while angels sing with tender mirth, a glad new year to all the earth.”
May you grow closer to God in 2021.
Published on Tuesday, December 29, 2020 @ 11:27 PM CDT
It was a dark time. Disease was rampant. There was social unrest. People were lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God. It was at this very time that God chose to act.
Some had lost hope that the Messiah would ever come. After all, the prophets had been silent for around 400 years. But in a stable meant for animals, not humans, Christ was born.
Angels lit up the dark sky as the shepherds watched in awe. The angels praised God saying, “Glory to God in the highest, and on earth peace, goodwill toward men!” (Luke 2:14).
The true light that gives light to everyone came into the world. (John 1:9). Jesus gave people hope, but more than that. He died on the cross so that we could have a personal relationship with God. Think about it. The God of the universe loves each one of us so much that He sent His Son to deliver us and give us abundant life.
In 2020, disease is rampant and there is social unrest. People are lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God.
So is it as bad as it was 2000 years ago? NO! We are on the other side of the cross. Jesus has already won the victory. Satan and his minions are on the rampage, but God, who lives in us, is greater than he who is in the world.
Jesus came into the world 2000 years ago and was the light of the world. However, He did not leave it at that. He commissioned us to be the light of the world. During this critical time in the United States and around the globe, we must take our responsibility seriously to pray AND witness like never before.
One of my favorite Christmas traditions is attending a candlelight service. The entire room is dark, and the pastor lights a single candle. He then starts lighting others’ candles, who in turn light others. The light spreads. What started out to be a pitch-black room, turns into a fully lit sanctuary. This process breaks down though if people don’t share their light. Too many times, we don’t share our light with others.
To effectively spread the light, we need to share our story of what Christ has done in our lives. I wasn’t very good at doing this until I attended a Roaring Lambs Testimony Workshop a few years ago. It transformed the way that I present my testimony. I now share with others some of the traumatic “earthquakes” I experienced in my life, one of which was being diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis.
During the pandemic, I haven’t gotten out much, Yet, God has sent me different caregivers that I’ve shared with. Several of them told me, “I really needed to hear that today.” We are not responsible for the results, but we are responsible to share.
This Christmas, you may not be able to attend a candlelight service. The holidays may look a little different. But I challenge you to share your light with at least one other person this holiday season. You might share on a zoom call, on the phone, or by sending an old fashion card. Whatever method you use, be the light at a time in history in which the world may seem dark.
Let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven. (Mathew 5:16).
BIO: Dr. Sherry Ryan is a retired Associate Professor of Information Technology and Decision Sciences at the University of North Texas. She received her Ph.D. in Information Systems from the University of Texas at Arlington and an MBA from the University of Southern California. Prior to earning her doctorate, she worked for IBM, teaching courses and speaking at national conferences. She has published numerous academic journal articles, conference proceedings, and is currently working on a book. Sherry is passionate about missions and is on the Board of Directors for His Appointed Time Ministries.
Published on Monday, November 30, 2020 @ 1:11 PM CDT
The noise from the television woke me. I had fallen asleep on the couch again. Stretching, I moaned. Every part of my body ached. A half-eaten sandwich and chips fell from my chest. I shook my head in disgust, cupped my hands to my face, and cried until I was gasping for breath.
“Father! Help Me!”
I had buried my Dad, my Aunt, and Connie, a life-long friend who I had hoped, would be my husband. I could barely muster the energy to dress and go to work. I routinely ate myself into oblivion only to wake more distraught than before.
“Dance,” I heard someone say.
It startled me, and though I was alone, I replied, “What?”
“Go, Dance!” This time it was a strong and clear directive.
A warm sensation penetrated my body. I leaped from the couch, hurried to the bathroom, and drew a hot bath. After a long soak, I felt renewed. It was 3:00 am. I was wide awake. With music blasting, I praised my way through washing dishes, mopping floors, and polishing furniture. I had not cleaned since daddy’s funeral. Exhausted, I laid down to rest. Oooh, I am going dancing tonight, thank you, Father! I fell asleep feeling as lighthearted as a teenager. God had delivered me from a deep state of depression with a simple directive to dance. Before my loved ones transitioned, I danced two or three times a week and sometimes more. I was losing weight and feeling great. After Connie’s passing, I could do nothing but merely exist.
God cares about every little thing that concerns us. With a simple cry to the Father, He spoke three words that changed my life: dance-go-dance. As I praised and thanked God, my energy returned, and my perspective changed. I wonder how things would have been different if I were praising and thanking Him before the depression set in? Grant it; life happens without warning some-no-most times. Therefore, we should live a life of praise & thanksgiving. It is the antidote to many of the woes and ill-happenings in our lives. Thanksgiving puts us in a space that allows us to hear and receive from God. It protects us against depression, addiction, and rejection. It can guard against loneliness, fear, and anxiety. It is your safe house when the storms of life begin to rage.
Enter into his gates with thanksgiving, and into his courts with praise: be thankful unto him, and bless his name. For the Lord is good: his mercy is everlasting: and his truth endureth to all generations. Ps. 100:4-5 (KJV)
My friend has a thanksgiving reminder set on her phone. Every hour, chimes ring, and a quote pops up (i.e., 5:00 PM is always peaceful, full of joy, and she has no unmet needs.) Establish an attitude of gratitude. Watch God perfect all that concerns you.
BIO: Joy A. Lewis, a native of southern Louisiana, received a Bachelor of Arts degree from Dillard University in New Orleans. Joy’s passion is for the written word. She is the Founder & Executive Director of The Christian Literary Awards, host of The Review with Joy & Company Radio Show, and Lead-Writer for SURA (Savvy Uniquely Relevant Authors) Literary Life Magazine. In addition, Joy is a professional speaker, a leader at Turning the World Upside-Down Ministries in New Orleans, and a member of the Potter’s House Church in Dallas, Texas. Joy currently resides in Grand Prairie, Texas.
Published on Friday, October 30, 2020 @ 3:00 PM CDT
One night, not so long ago, David, my husband of over fifty years, had a vivid dream. While he slept, he saw Jesus in His full splendor with arms wide open, emerge from a bright light within a cloud. There were two other clouds to the left of the first cloud, each filled with a bright light, but figures associated with the other two bright lights did not emerge. David felt Jesus was coming for him with outstretched arms to take him to Heaven. Then, suddenly Jesus turned and disappeared back into the cloud. This was not an “out of body” experience; however, it was without a doubt, a dream sent from above. David was reminded of the scripture:
After He said this, He was taken up before their eyes, and a cloud hid Him from their sight. They were looking intently up into the sky as He was going, when suddenly two men dressed in white stood beside them. “Men of Galilee, why do you stand here looking into the sky? This same Jesus, who has been taken from you into heaven, will come back in the same way you have seen him go into heaven.” Acts 1:9-11
The question remains: “Why did Jesus reveal Himself and then disappear back into the clouds in such a real and dramatic way?”
This dream occurred just after my husband’s diagnosis with a serious lung disease. Tests showed that David’s oxygen level had been falling below normal for long periods during his sleep. David could have slipped peaceably into the outstretched arms of Jesus the night of his miraculous dream. He believes Jesus was telling him through this dream that he was ready to meet his Maker in the cloud. For some reason, though, Jesus turned back and left David here for a while longer. Maybe this was God’s way of letting my husband realize that although he was ready to meet Him, he was being released to stay on Earth for a longer period of time.
Do you think that Jesus wanted David to know that his mission on Earth wasn’t over yet? Do you think Jesus knew and wanted His child to realize that he had a divine purpose to fulfill while still living on Earth? Or perhaps, Jesus knew that David’s family still needed him in a tremendous way and wanted him to be grateful for each moment he was given to continue to watch over them? All of these questions end up with the same answer…yes.
Now both David and I celebrate each new day with an increasing awareness of the close presence of the Almighty God and His Son, Jesus. Our Creator loves us, understands us, and most of all expects us to spread His joy and everlasting love to all He sends into our path of life.
We heard a song on the radio entitled, He May Be On the Next Cloud. The message is clear that we need to be ready for the return of our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. No one knows the time or moment when He might come to beckon us home to be with Him. However, we also must be ready at any moment to meet Him on THE NEXT CLOUD.
BIO: Jan Stroman, a native of Hot Springs, Arkansas, has been a teacher, leader, and administrator in various fields of learning. Her Master's and Doctoral degree are related to research on how to teach the reading and writing process most effectively. She loves so many things in life but most of all she loves and is dedicated to helping others discover the reality of a faith-based life. In January 2013, Jan started Ladies In Touch, an organization whose main purpose is to connect ladies with each other and with God. She is married to David, her husband of more than fifty years and they have a son, daughter-in-law, and two handsome grandsons who all are the joy of her life. www.ladiesintouch.com
Published on Thursday, October 15, 2020 @ 7:31 PM CDT
We are told to social distance six-feet apart and wear a mask to protect us from a disease that has less than a one percent death rate. However, the death rate for sin against a Holy God is 100 percent for those who do not accept Jesus as Lord and Savior. Have you heard this in 2020 on the news? Probably not—only from Bible-believing churches and believers.
SIN is defined as an immoral act considered to be a transgression against the divine or simply disobedience to God. God takes sin so seriously it is mentioned nearly 400 times in the Bible. It is breaking God’s laws. In John 14:15, Jesus says, “If you love me you will obey my commands.”
There is no small sin. God hates them all. Many people use a “moral compass” to justify their actions by saying, “I don’t commit bad sins like stealing and murder.” That’s not the yardstick by which God measures. In fact, even our righteous acts are like filthy rags, so grasp how much worse our sins are in the Creator’s eyes. Don’t believe the lies that you are a good person or because God is a loving God, He won’t punish.
Romans 3:9 states, “None is righteous, no, not one.” Verse 23 says ALL have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God. Romans 6:23 says that the wages of sin is death.
If you are a believer and do what you know is not in God’s commandments, you feel shame—that is the Holy Spirit prompting you. As believers, while our eternal salvation is secure, don’t abuse God’s grace. Grace does not make sin safe. God doesn’t want us to be ninety percent sinless and ten percent sinful. He commands us to strive not to sin. This is a tough task for us fallen humans, but He sent the Holy Spirit to help us. I have tried to manage sin on my own and found sin ends up managing me.
What sins are holding onto and have not turned over to Jesus? Greed, lust, hatred, anger, or lies?
God's purpose is not to be a killjoy so we don’t have “fun,” but requires we turn from sin so we don’t hurt other people or damage our own souls. The unbelieving world finds Christians hypocritical when they praise God with their words but deny Him with their actions. We are to be examples and the salt of the earth, not stumbling blocks.
One reason we love sin that it is pleasurable for a season. Leave things alone that exile you from your soul.
Acknowledge your sin and bring it to the light. God already knows, but daily confession frees you from shame and guilt. Satan loves to fight in the dark, so bring it into the light.
Steps to forgiveness of sin, shame, and guilt: 1) recognize you are a sinner and use the ten commandments to see where you struggle with certain sins, 2) confess your sins to God, not just to yourself—He already knows, 3) acknowledge Jesus died not just for others sins, but specifically yours, and 4) repent and change. Being eternally pardoned does not give you permission to continue breaking God’s laws even though He no longer holds those earlier sins against you.
Social distancing six feet apart to protect yourself from COVID-19 is one thing. However, the most important thing is not to be socially distanced from God. The closer you draw to Him, the more joy and peace you’ll have in your soul and the better witness you’ll be to others.
Published on Monday, August 31, 2020 @ 9:52 PM CDT
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